I have arrived at an age where I have allowed myself the privilege of making comfort a priority.

Comfort for me goes across the board.

1. Temperature– in my house or car or anywhere else that I can control the environment I make sure I’m comfortable. Whether anyone else likes it or not, I have sacrificed my temperature comfort long enough. Being a victim of poverty while living in northern Minnesota having grown up in Florida, here the furnace didn’t come on until Oct. 1., freezing to death was always on my mind. My last husband was apple shaped as were a child or 2 and thus the home temperature couldn’t go above 68 or human combustion would occur, to say I was uncomfortable throughout that relationship is an understatement. Now I control my temperature and, life is so gooooooood

2. The way I dress-I had my reproductive stuff removed about 15 -16 years ago, the scar goes right up my middle, making clothes that bind not my friend, so I do not wear any type of binding clothes and believe me, I look hot with out needing to wear shape-wear or a corset. You do you but no one is binding my middle so that a I look correct to some man. Choose your own level of comfort no need to look like a bum.

3. Figuring out how much to eat drink and do that makes you feel good– without Karen trying to get you to order dessert or have another drink or it’s awful early to start drinking. As for my house I will do me you do you. Making yourself sick because you eat stupid foods, drink wrong things, or too much or a “good” thing are stupid ideas, care for yourself more!

4. SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF– most women of my generation had to go through the initial teaching of subservience to male authority, booo. It took years to understand how to use neutral language in order to get my needs heard. Back in the day any attempt of wanting something would be met with, who do you think you are? Bullies only have the power you give them, snatch it back.

5. Make sure your home team support is real– Some of us have had to learn the hard way that family isn’t your friend and being around certain people, say mom and dad, sister brother, is uncomfortable to say the least. Choose your people carefully!

Now do not confuse comfort with pleasure or enjoyment, we are talking about comfort, the sensation of comfy clothes on your body not binding or restrictive, a do nothing day, unrestricted happiness at a fair or party, being exactly who you are. Comfort is mental and physical, and you can be in charge of your own comfort. So do that!

Daily writing prompt

What strategies do you use to increase comfort in your daily life?

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